Most of us like to go to sleep when we deem it necessary and / or it is the designated time. However, our bodies and more specifically the mind often does not get the memo.  In fact, sleep deprivation can cause some of those nasty side effects people get alarmed over.  While restful sleep can support your comprehension and problem-solving ability. Fatigue can make you more anxious, less kind to others and take a bite out of your confidence.

Sleep is a natural process but is not like a light switch that can be flicked on and off at will. Babies fall asleep easily  but as they grow parents will say even with twins one needs more sleep. Some toddlers are ready to give up their naps much sooner than others. Maybe you were one of those children if so, it may make more sense that your sleep requirements may not be as high as others.

Some children daydream more than others or use their imagination more.  I tend to think that these children, with  very active brains, tend to break away from naps sooner and can find it harder to fall asleep. During the day there is always a lot of activity to keep random thoughts at bay  but in the dark, you only have an open door for your imagination.  

Many people become consumed with thinking about sleep or the lack there of. Much of it starts and ends with your mind. Overthinking and speculation about  not being able to sleep can fuel the fire of sleepless nights,  unexpected wake ups, and lead to feeling tired throughout the day.

Thoughts of sleeplessness become consuming and people watch the clock obsessed that they must get “8” hours of sleep.   Their minds become active as they start to drift off and anxiously, they spur their mind into the ruts of “oh no” another sleepless night! This is when even little thoughts become magnified. Some people can function well on less sleep than 8 hours it is not a magic number.  I fall asleep usually by 12 and wake at 6. One day I thought about it and  found it to be only 6 hours!!! But for me that is ok. If not fully awake at 6 I may choose to go back to sleep but I do not dwell on it. If I became obsessed with the fact, that I usually only sleep 6 hours/night the anxiety created may whittle that 6 down to only 4  or 5 hours of sleep.

 Today they state 7-9 hours of sleep per night is average for adults.

Web Md has a little quiz about sleep!

Everyone knows how a child may find it hard to go to sleep on Christmas Eve,  or when a person is leaving on a big vacation,  or maybe  when they have  a big presentation the next day.  Your  mind is stuffed full of thoughts, wishes, ideas, and often lists of what to accomplish. Stuffed full of WHAT IF scenarios.  Stuffed with worry and concerns  with most of it is just – SPECULATION! (the forming of a theory or conjecture without firm evidence.)

Inability to fall to sleep often starts with an overcrowded mind. There are many things out there to read on  ways to combat sleeplessness, so I will not list them. Here is good article for reference  from the Sleep Foundation. This article has many useful links.

But what I hear people say is – I’ve read them all nothing works,  or it won’t work for me,  or I doubt it will work for me, or Last time I tried – it was  ineffective….

Their mind is already made up.  The more you try to make yourself go to sleep the longer it takes – if your mind is dwelling  on  the repetitive thought  I cannot sleep!  you need to develop a new mindset!   

DO YOU SEE THE PATTERN? Each one of those statements and so many others like them are based off a negative mindset  based off ruts in your thinking.   Negative mindsets WILL interfere in your getting a consistent good night’s sleep.   


People watch the clock until they fall asleep. Often, they are actively drifting to sleep but their mind forces them to look at a clock one more time and maybe one mor time after that and so on. They are convinced they did not sleep at all.  Others may wake some and  keep checking the clock!  They start to calculate how much sleep they did not get or will not get and that alone will prevent them from falling to sleep.

I have observed many in the  hospital sleeping soundly on  15 -30 min checks  and I usually stand at the bedside silently observing them for resp rate, signs of discomfort or any type of distress. I often say quietly “It is just me checking on you” (so that if partially awake they will not startle. I seem to think the reassurance that I tell them this is what  I do, helps)  often I am in the room for 5 min or more if I am checking on IV’s, Catheters and of course you have to check their pulse especially for fresh post ops.  And yes, throughout most of the night –  they are really sleeping, yes snoring, mouth open …. And in the morning, they tell visitors they did not sleep a wink. Of course, it is in a hospital so maybe they feel it is just expected. When you are in a different surrounding you may or may not sleep as well.


Sleeplessness if often driven by the FEAR of not being able to sleep , or fears in general that are the cause of most anxiety.

Anxiety, worry, and stress all interfere with your bodies ability to follow   a pattern of wakefulness and sleep.



Published by: Your Path to Freedom

This blog is all about attacking panic attack and anxiety with a positive mindset. Not long ago a good friend disclosed he had been a victim of panic attack for 10 years. I never would have guessed! Isn't that what you would want for yourself? Through trial and error he found what worked for him and we want to share his path to freedom with you.

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