For my followers there is hope for all to overcome the mental torment that seems to attack some people more than others. When fear and anxiety team up they fortify each other and seem to stay. If you add a dose of self-pity you create a stronghold of 3 for continued negativity and undesired outcomes. They replace the peace and joy in your life. You become consumed with this new darkness and hope seems to be outside your reach.
This is a good time to look back through the weekly post index. Read or reread that which you may have missed. We started with explanations for the symptoms of panic and anxiety to help you gain an understanding of what and why you experience that which makes you fearful. This information is especially helpful for those with any type of health anxiety to review repeatedly. Purposely we are repetitive in some of the topics because it took repetition of negative thoughts and emotions to become behaviors. Such as anxiety, panic, fear, and depression. Remember we have to change the way we think in order to change the way we behave.
Understandably mental torment is often triggered by experiences of high anxiety, caused by that which you are exposed to! This repetition created your current mindset, the deep ruts, that now funnel your ever-waking thoughts down the rabbit hole into the dark away from peace and joy.
Let us rehash a common denominator:
Some people are predisposed by their basic nature such as an overthinker who speculates. Some have life histories that keep circulating with the replay button. But everyone deals with anxiety and worry at points in their life.
YOUR MAIN GOAL IS TO DISCONNECT THE REPLAY BUTTON!
I am going to provide some links, please follow them, with some in-depth information about our discussion today. These ideas and knowledge may help set you on a path to understanding and defeating the negative/darkness in your life. Hope is when you can see a glimmer of light:
Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large. As a verb, its definitions include: “expect with confidence” and “to cherish a desire with anticipation.” Wikipedia
There will be a mix between secular and religious viewpoints. I am sure most people can gather helpful hints from each article referred to.
One of my favorite articles is by Curt Landry on anxiety – When Anxiety Gets the Best of You.
He lists what I believe is a key to squelching the hurt, pain, and negativity that seems to be collapsing, and smothering you and your true purpose.
Curt Landry My Take
DO YOU Then some of your thought would be
- Compares always comparing your life to others
- Pushes or Rushes making rash decisions
- Fears fearful of never being able to be free
- Confuses truth form lies and deception
- Discourages trying anything again
- Worries about things others do not
- Obsesses day in and day out on your troubles
- Deprives yourself from new experiences
- Condemns thinks negatively about your plight in life
DO YOU DESIRE SOMETHING THAT __________ YOU?
- Stills the storm inside
- Leads you to peace joy and contentment
- Reassures you that are never alone, and you are loved
- Enlightens you to truths and how to achieve them
- Encourages you to go outside your comfort zone…
- Comforts you by being held in your Fathers arms
- Calms even the most horrific storm in your life
- Convicts you to follow newfound truths
An important take away from this article is to understand the statement regarding the cause of anxiety, it reads, “Equally detrimental as drowning in worry, is to wear it like a badge.”
Offense and self-pity are very detrimental. In fact, they top the list of negative emotions. If you find yourself strongly identifying with either easily taking offense or self- pity this post may be your key to freedom. The Psychology of Offense – explains.
The actual definition of the self-pity is – Self-pity is an emotion “directed towards others with the goal of attracting attention, empathy, or help” and one in which the subject feels sorry for themselves. Wikipedia
Another great read is found in Inc.com under the heading Self-Pity vs sadness. It explains how – self-pity goes far beyond sadness and in fact compounds and exaggerates hopelessness and helplessness.
Just think how this information may make it easier for you to explain where you are to friends and family. If friends and family often feed into self -pity with empathy…. There actions, done with a caring attitude, become a major factor in hitting the replay button!
If you identify with some of these things it may be best to seek out a counselor. Those close to you often just perpetuate that which is negative.
Another good read is: 9 Ways to Get Past Self-Pity How to stop a downward spiral before it starts. This is from Psychology today.
Another Curt Landry article talks says – YOU Can Change at Any Moment! Yes, we can. Everyone experiences some sadness but do not choose to dwell there.
In Closing, my pray for you is change and experience growth in not only overcoming, but defeating mental anguish, by gathering hope through understanding. Stop hitting the replay button set yourself on the path toward the light and once you start… DO NOT STOP!
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